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2/29/12

Alphabesillies with Jake...

Except this time it's not sillies. Got a little bit of my life to share this week. Some of you know the rest of the story....

Four years ago on January 14th, my oldest daughter took her own life. She used a rope. Shattered hearts and devistation only begin to describe what it did to myself and my family. Some of you may understand...

We chose cremation. Then decided to bury her ashes next to her brother, and order a headstone. Before the service my youngest daughter's husband Virgel went to the cemetary and dug the three foot hole, then stayed afterward to fill it in. He said he couldn't see her brothers having to do it. He saw how her choice affected all of us, he also felt the sadness. I gained a new respect for him and any misunderstandings we'd had before melted away. What a caring, understanding, awesome man.


Thirteen days ago Virgel took his own life.
He used a rope....





Not sure when I'll be posting again.
But I will.  I know life goes on...


24 comments:

Dazee Dreamer said...

You know I am here for you.

anitamombanita said...

Oh my gosh. Surreal. I'm so sorry for your losses. This is horrific. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you can find peace.

Lola said...

So sad to hear your dreadful news. You are in our thoughts and prayers too,

Ruth said...

Oh, my, Vicki. There are just no words to - I don't know what to say - except I am thinking of you and your family!

Grandma Yellow Hair said...

Honey I wish I were there with you right now to do what ever I could to help you.
I am just so very sorry for your loss and daughters. You both are in my prayers.
If you need to talk I am only a email away and phone too.
Please know we love you
Maggie

LuLu Kellogg said...

I am just now reading this and am so sorry. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love,
LuLu~*xoxo

Rocky Mountain Woman said...

Oh Jake,

What can I say? My heart is breaking for you. I've lost a son and the pain is unbearable especially at first. I've never been capable of writing about it, but your courage is inspiring!

Life does go on, just a little sadder and slower sometimes...

xxoo,

RMW

Jane said...

How tragic for your family. Thinking of you and extending my deepest condolances.

Sue said...

What a punch to the gut this has to be.

I am praying with all my heart for your and your family, Jake.

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JDaniel4's Mom said...

I am so sorry! I will be holding your family in my prayers.

PⒿ @ $ € € ₦$ ₣®0₥... said...

I always include you in my prayers. You know that.
And you know what's in my heart.

Viki said...

How terribly sad and heartbreaking. Your whole family will be in my thoughts.

Pearl said...

I love you Jake and you know I'm praying for ya. XOXO

Ames said...

I feel such sadness for you and your family. I wouldn't think words from a stranger could ease your pain, but my heart goes out to you and your daughter and family.

My own father took his life. It is a very painful thing to live with. Not something I would want anyone to go through.

~Ames

Jo said...

my dd's bff took her own life as well ... when i wrote my O post about options ... this was in my mind ... incredibly difficult to live through this experience ... i wish you and your family members peace ...

Naperville Now said...

there are no words.
my prayers to you and your family.

Cheryl D. said...

Hugs. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through all this devastation. It's truly awful.

About 15 years ago, my closest friend committed suicide. It was gut-wrenching, and I still miss her terribly.

Take good care of yourself and your daughter during this tough time.

Pondside said...

No words - just prayer from the heart.

Jann Olson said...

Oh Vicki, my heart breaks for you dear friend! I knew that your daughter had passsed away, but did not know how. What a terrible thing for you to bear. I know that she did not think of how it would affect you and others. Just that the pain had to stop. My oldest sisters son took his life quite a few years ago and it was so difficult for her to understand. And then to hear of Virgils death. How is your sweet daughter holding up. You know that he had to have not been thinking of what pain it would cause the two of you. It's hard to understand how low they must be feeling. I will be praying for you and your family!
Hugs,
Jann

GerryART said...

While we may not be nearby, you know that we are as close as can be.
Words fail
you and yours are in my Heart.
love and hugs
Gerry

My Grama's Soul said...

Oh dear Vicki.........Oh my...oh my....oh my.....

You are always in my heart.

xo

Jo

Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

Oh, Jake! I am so very sad to hear this, Your family has been through so much. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. My deepest condolences.
{{hugs}}}

RoeH said...

I always think I check blogs thoroughly but I missed this. My heart aches for you. Nothing can be harder than that. You're always in my thoughts. My daughter lost her first child through just a tragic birth. I cannot even imagine what this does to somebody.

Hugs.

Jenny said...

Oh sweet lady. I hope you got my card. Know that I'm praying for you with my whole heart. My heart grieves for you.

Hugs and hope.